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How to stay calm when you know you’ll be stressed | Daniel Levitin

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How to stay calm when you know you’ll be stressed | Daniel Levitin


A few years ago,
I broke into my own house. I had just driven home, it was around midnight
in the dead of Montreal winter, I had been visiting my friend,
Jeff, across town, and the thermometer on the front porch
read minus 40 degrees — and don’t bother asking
if that’s Celsius or Fahrenheit, minus 40 is where the two scales meet — it was very cold. And as I stood on the front porch
fumbling in my pockets, I found I didn’t have my keys. In fact, I could see them
through the window, lying on the dining room table
where I had left them. So I quickly ran around
and tried all the other doors and windows, and they were locked tight. I thought about calling a locksmith —
at least I had my cellphone, but at midnight, it could take a while
for a locksmith to show up, and it was cold. I couldn’t go back to my friend
Jeff’s house for the night because I had an early flight
to Europe the next morning, and I needed to get
my passport and my suitcase. So, desperate and freezing cold, I found a large rock and I broke
through the basement window, cleared out the shards of glass, I crawled through, I found a piece of cardboard
and taped it up over the opening, figuring that in the morning,
on the way to the airport, I could call my contractor
and ask him to fix it. This was going to be expensive, but probably no more expensive
than a middle-of-the-night locksmith, so I figured, under the circumstances,
I was coming out even. Now, I’m a neuroscientist by training and I know a little bit
about how the brain performs under stress. It releases cortisol
that raises your heart rate, it modulates adrenaline levels and it clouds your thinking. So the next morning, when I woke up on too little sleep, worrying about the hole in the window, and a mental note
that I had to call my contractor, and the freezing temperatures, and the meetings I had upcoming in Europe, and, you know, with all
the cortisol in my brain, my thinking was cloudy, but I didn’t know it was cloudy
because my thinking was cloudy. (Laughter) And it wasn’t until I got
to the airport check-in counter, that I realized I didn’t have my passport. (Laughter) So I raced home in the snow
and ice, 40 minutes, got my passport,
raced back to the airport, I made it just in time, but they had given away
my seat to someone else, so I got stuck in the back of the plane,
next to the bathrooms, in a seat that wouldn’t recline,
on an eight-hour flight. Well, I had a lot of time to think
during those eight hours and no sleep. (Laughter) And I started wondering,
are there things that I can do, systems that I can put into place, that will prevent bad things
from happening? Or at least if bad things happen, will minimize the likelihood
of it being a total catastrophe. So I started thinking about that, but my thoughts didn’t crystallize
until about a month later. I was having dinner with my colleague,
Danny Kahneman, the Nobel Prize winner, and I somewhat embarrassedly told him
about having broken my window, and, you know, forgotten my passport, and Danny shared with me that he’d been practicing
something called prospective hindsight. (Laughter) It’s something that he had gotten
from the psychologist Gary Klein, who had written about it
a few years before, also called the pre-mortem. Now, you all know what the postmortem is. Whenever there’s a disaster, a team of experts come in and they try
to figure out what went wrong, right? Well, in the pre-mortem, Danny explained, you look ahead and you try to figure out
all the things that could go wrong, and then you try to figure out
what you can do to prevent those things from happening,
or to minimize the damage. So what I want to talk to you about today are some of the things we can do
in the form of a pre-mortem. Some of them are obvious,
some of them are not so obvious. I’ll start with the obvious ones. Around the home, designate a place
for things that are easily lost. Now, this sounds
like common sense, and it is, but there’s a lot of science
to back this up, based on the way our spatial memory works. There’s a structure in the brain
called the hippocampus, that evolved over tens
of thousands of years, to keep track of the locations
of important things — where the well is,
where fish can be found, that stand of fruit trees, where the friendly and enemy tribes live. The hippocampus is the part of the brain that in London taxicab drivers
becomes enlarged. It’s the part of the brain
that allows squirrels to find their nuts. And if you’re wondering,
somebody actually did the experiment where they cut off
the olfactory sense of the squirrels, and they could still find their nuts. They weren’t using smell,
they were using the hippocampus, this exquisitely evolved mechanism
in the brain for finding things. But it’s really good for things
that don’t move around much, not so good for things that move around. So this is why we lose car keys
and reading glasses and passports. So in the home,
designate a spot for your keys — a hook by the door,
maybe a decorative bowl. For your passport, a particular drawer. For your reading glasses,
a particular table. If you designate a spot
and you’re scrupulous about it, your things will always be there
when you look for them. What about travel? Take a cell phone picture
of your credit cards, your driver’s license, your passport, mail it to yourself so it’s in the cloud. If these things are lost or stolen,
you can facilitate replacement. Now these are some rather obvious things. Remember, when you’re under stress,
the brain releases cortisol. Cortisol is toxic,
and it causes cloudy thinking. So part of the practice of the pre-mortem is to recognize that under stress
you’re not going to be at your best, and you should put systems in place. And there’s perhaps
no more stressful a situation than when you’re confronted
with a medical decision to make. And at some point, all of us
are going to be in that position, where we have to make
a very important decision about the future of our medical care
or that of a loved one, to help them with a decision. And so I want to talk about that. And I’m going to talk about
a very particular medical condition. But this stands as a proxy for all kinds
of medical decision-making, and indeed for financial decision-making,
and social decision-making — any kind of decision you have to make that would benefit from a rational
assessment of the facts. So suppose you go to your doctor
and the doctor says, “I just got your lab work back,
your cholesterol’s a little high.” Now, you all know that high cholesterol is associated with an increased risk
of cardiovascular disease, heart attack, stroke. And so you’re thinking having high cholesterol
isn’t the best thing, and so the doctor says,
“You know, I’d like to give you a drug that will help you
lower your cholesterol, a statin.” And you’ve probably heard of statins, you know that they’re among
the most widely prescribed drugs in the world today, you probably even know
people who take them. And so you’re thinking,
“Yeah! Give me the statin.” But there’s a question
you should ask at this point, a statistic you should ask for that most doctors
don’t like talking about, and pharmaceutical companies
like talking about even less. It’s for the number needed to treat. Now, what is this, the NNT? It’s the number of people
that need to take a drug or undergo a surgery
or any medical procedure before one person is helped. And you’re thinking,
what kind of crazy statistic is that? The number should be one. My doctor wouldn’t prescribe
something to me if it’s not going to help. But actually, medical practice
doesn’t work that way. And it’s not the doctor’s fault, if it’s anybody’s fault,
it’s the fault of scientists like me. We haven’t figured out
the underlying mechanisms well enough. But GlaxoSmithKline estimates that 90 percent of the drugs work
in only 30 to 50 percent of the people. So the number needed to treat
for the most widely prescribed statin, what do you suppose it is? How many people have to take it
before one person is helped? 300. This is according to research by research practitioners
Jerome Groopman and Pamela Hartzband, independently confirmed by Bloomberg.com. I ran through the numbers myself. 300 people have to
take the drug for a year before one heart attack, stroke
or other adverse event is prevented. Now you’re probably thinking, “Well, OK, one in 300 chance
of lowering my cholesterol. Why not, doc? Give me
the prescription anyway.” But you should ask at this point
for another statistic, and that is, “Tell me
about the side effects.” Right? So for this particular drug, the side effects occur
in five percent of the patients. And they include terrible things — debilitating muscle and joint pain,
gastrointestinal distress — but now you’re thinking, “Five percent, not very likely
it’s going to happen to me, I’ll still take the drug.” But wait a minute. Remember under stress
you’re not thinking clearly. So think about how you’re going
to work through this ahead of time, so you don’t have to manufacture
the chain of reasoning on the spot. 300 people take the drug, right?
One person’s helped, five percent of those 300
have side effects, that’s 15 people. You’re 15 times more likely
to be harmed by the drug than you are to be helped by the drug. Now, I’m not saying whether you
should take the statin or not. I’m just saying you should have
this conversation with your doctor. Medical ethics requires it, it’s part of the principle
of informed consent. You have the right to have access
to this kind of information to begin the conversation about whether
you want to take the risks or not. Now you might be thinking I’ve pulled this number
out of the air for shock value, but in fact it’s rather typical,
this number needed to treat. For the most widely performed surgery
on men over the age of 50, removal of the prostate for cancer, the number needed to treat is 49. That’s right, 49 surgeries are done
for every one person who’s helped. And the side effects in that case
occur in 50 percent of the patients. They include impotence,
erectile dysfunction, urinary incontinence, rectal tearing, fecal incontinence. And if you’re lucky, and you’re one
of the 50 percent who has these, they’ll only last for a year or two. So the idea of the pre-mortem
is to think ahead of time to the questions
that you might be able to ask that will push the conversation forward. You don’t want to have to manufacture
all of this on the spot. And you also want to think
about things like quality of life. Because you have a choice oftentimes, do you I want a shorter life
that’s pain-free, or a longer life that might have
a great deal of pain towards the end? These are things to talk about
and think about now, with your family and your loved ones. You might change your mind
in the heat of the moment, but at least you’re practiced
with this kind of thinking. Remember, our brain under stress
releases cortisol, and one of the things
that happens at that moment is a whole bunch on systems shut down. There’s an evolutionary reason for this. Face-to-face with a predator,
you don’t need your digestive system, or your libido, or your immune system, because if you’re body is expending
metabolism on those things and you don’t react quickly, you might become the lion’s lunch,
and then none of those things matter. Unfortunately, one of the things that goes out the window
during those times of stress is rational, logical thinking, as Danny Kahneman
and his colleagues have shown. So we need to train ourselves
to think ahead to these kinds of situations. I think the important point here
is recognizing that all of us are flawed. We all are going to fail now and then. The idea is to think ahead
to what those failures might be, to put systems in place
that will help minimize the damage, or to prevent the bad things
from happening in the first place. Getting back to that
snowy night in Montreal, when I got back from my trip, I had my contractor install
a combination lock next to the door, with a key to the front door in it,
an easy to remember combination. And I have to admit, I still have piles of mail
that haven’t been sorted, and piles of emails
that I haven’t gone through. So I’m not completely organized, but I see organization
as a gradual process, and I’m getting there. Thank you very much. (Applause)

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100 thoughts on “How to stay calm when you know you’ll be stressed | Daniel Levitin”

  1. IllMatic95 says:

    they should call this WTF show

  2. grace goode says:

    yo this worsened my anxiety lmao. this talk is all over the place and there is little to no structure. i’m trying to help my anxiety not make it worse jfc

  3. jon atkinson says:

    Zero evidence of evolution, but all these geniuses talk to it as if its fact. They call that lying.

  4. Li Chen Adam says:

    9:13 "you're 15times more likely to be harmed by the drug" what does it mean mathematically?

  5. Renee Perry says:

    I agree that the premise of this talk was not what he said it would be. However, the statistics about how you are more likely to be harmed by certain commonly prescribed drugs and surgeries than actually helped is astonishing and important. I'm glad I watched it.

  6. Jason Voorhees says:

    that point is :
    We need to train ourselves to think ahead to these kinds of situations, the important point here is recognizing that all of us are flawed. We all are going to fail now and then, The idea is to think ahead to what those failures might be, to put systems in place that will help minimize the damage, or to prevent the bad things from happening in the first place.

    maybe you should recognizing these
    before the damage will go

  7. Krishna Reddyindela says:

    https://chat.whatsapp.com/CTfYmTjJ4pEIiUYn3HFnHT

  8. Monami Tsunami Coelho says:

    Yay 🙌👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙌👏👏👍

  9. Stephan Smith says:

    Don’t take his advice about emailing yourself pictures of your ID’s. Standard email is not secure and someone could steal your information.

  10. magicalgold010 says:

    Nice guy

  11. Emily Meng says:

    Not get anything useful from this video. Maybe I didn't get the quintessence.

  12. Dieiny Crestani says:

    Really interesting video. However, the only thing that it does not have is to teach how to stay calm when you know you will be stressed. It shows very well and in an illustrative manner what happens when you are stressed, but just saying that you have to foresee it and prevent it is not the same as showing how to do it.

  13. Ceedsie says:

    Why did he get so stressed about forgetting his keys?? It seems like a smallish annoyance, at worst!

  14. LizzEeee E says:

    By 2:30, I was starting to get serious anxiety. I hope it worked out for him. I don’t need all of this unnecessary stress

  15. WTF how bizarre says:

    What side effects does フィコンパ4 Ficomper 4mg antiseizure medication have? Does it have paranoia as a side effect? i wasn't told about the side effects. i was told that it was a new antiseizure medication. i was told it has fewer side effects than Keppra. So i took it. it's the same medication they prescribed after my 2 hours of grand mal seizures i had a whole lot of them. one after another.
    it's not a statin. statins are mitochondria toxic. i wouldn't take statins. My doctor wouldn't prescribe statins. Most antiseizure medication like Depakote are mitochondrial toxic fatally so for mitochondrial disease patients. So i don't take Depakote.
    This isn't how to stay calm.

  16. WTF how bizarre says:

    Taking photos with your phone is a bad idea. My MELAS syndrome specialist is afraid of cyber crime so he tapes up his lactictop camera. He doesn't use the cloud. because
    the cloud isn't a safe place to store private things. Don't take photos of your credit card that would set you up for hacker victimization. Unless you take it with analogue photos like a Polaroid. or don't take photos of your credit card with your phone. Keep your wallet in one place. and everything you need in it. And tie string to your finger and to your wallet if you tend to forget your wallet. or get a card holder.

  17. WTF how bizarre says:

    Is this made with Deepfakes?

  18. WTF how bizarre says:

    Statins are mitochondria toxic. it causes lactic acidosis. i've had that conversation with my MELAS syndrome specialist.

    Bushes of love lyrics
    Luke:How did my father die?
    Obiwan: 49 times we fought that beast.

    Glad you mentioned 49. That was really cute. So i'm up against an AI. Yes, they do make mistakes now and then, read up on the Billion Dollar lawsuit against Apple by an 18 due to flawed facial recognition program. AIs need to be trained, just like people. Well, a little differently, than Humans.

  19. Anette Scherzer says:

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  20. Nature Sounds And Songs says:

    Great Video. It is important to listen to videos like this. It makes you rethink the strategy. Relax, calm your mind and body, work out!

  21. Berna Erustun says:

    Preknowledge is real and let me feel good 🤗

  22. key meter says:

    There wassuh alotov unnecessary unwarranted name droppings.

  23. Ben Pang says:

    Disorganised and misleading talk. It had nothing to do with the title.

  24. Nikky JA says:

    What a timing!! I was just stressed up and suddenly YouTube came out with the solution 😇😇

  25. ASMRamen says:

    Wow 🔫!

  26. Nuno N says:

    I got stressed just to watch this video

  27. Jonathan L says:

    TED needs better QA

  28. Squishy Potato says:

    just pretend you already fudged it at some point

  29. Dicksak Johnmanson says:

    you bastards

  30. oliviapatterson1 says:

    I have a issue with 'informed consent'. It doesn't really exist. You are never going to be as informed as the doctor who is treating you. You may have done more research on the drug the doctor is trying to perscribe. But you don't have the knowledge of anatomy, physiology, pharmacology, epidemiology, literature critique and review that your doctor who has trained for 8+ years has. Otherwise you would be a doctor.

  31. ZuRriX says:

    The summary of the video is organize yourself. That's it.

    Also, statins are bad.

  32. Mohamed K. Outa says:

    Where is the strategy to stay calm. But thanks for the general info

  33. Kevin Bell says:

    I've given up on TED Talks. They're as educational and irritating as YouTube now schooling the planet with advertising.

  34. Crash Organism says:

    As you have paid for your seat on a flight they don't just give it away. so thinking BS from the start and… next

  35. Cristóbal López says:

    Worst video i have seen in ted

  36. Allen Lee says:

    i clicked this cause i thought this guy is Sylvester Stallone…

  37. Francine says:

    I can't relate to his story. I make sure my purse has my keys and cell phone and wallet before I go anywhere, let alone on a major trip. He must have ADD to be forgetting first his keys and then his passport.

  38. mepris moon says:

    "how not to lose your keys: get a bowl put it in there thats where you lost it"

  39. Mạn Hương says:

    Hello. I want to make friends to do improve my English skills. Please, answer to me if you have the same for goal.

  40. Anupam Das says:

    Anybody else felt this doesn't answer what you looking for?

  41. comeon388 says:

    I really wish my dad hadn't taken those disgusting statin drugs based on the lies surrounding cholesterol!!!!!

  42. Gene FG says:

    I feel like it was all very interesting but had nothing or little to do with the title

  43. JDave Foster says:

    Cortisol does not raise your heart rate.

  44. Michael O'Reilly says:

    I don't know why but I'm super paranoid

  45. Abacaxis e Pêssegos says:

    I loved his way to talk and his accent! I 'm not a english native speaker but I understood perfectly each word he said!

  46. Jason Patrick says:

    Try figuring out where to find your next bite to eat or drink or if you will ever again.
    This guys complaints about his own stress makes me angry.

  47. سیروس مریدی says:

    انچه دلخواه همه است جز تن درستی نیست،که اگر کسی روزی از ان محروم شد ارزویی جز بدست اوردنش ندارد.
    بزرگمهر
    فسا

  48. Make Your Story says:

    EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE BY KC (HINDI) | UNDERSTAND & SUCCEED.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gydP4kNEjqI

  49. Priya Gera says:

    How to stay calm when you wasted your 12 minutes !

  50. PistolStar21 says:

    So if you have an anxiety disorder you're always under stress and you're judgment is always cloudy lol

  51. shivani balram says:

    https://www.vamatoday.in/lifestyle/coworkers-personal-life-financial-crisis/

  52. The Minas Parable says:

    Wow.

  53. Natalia J says:

    12 mins of my life I'll never get back….(

  54. Pavel T says:

    Should have read the comments before watching

  55. The Blavk world says:

    3:45 All Muslims know that and all that's in the Quran ❤🍁 ALLHAMDULLILLAH

  56. Navya Rao says:

    Ha ha ha ha…… Meanwhile I am here feeling stress by thinking I may be stress

  57. Lady Bandits 2018 says:

    – 40 degrees? Why would anyone want to live in a place like that on purpose? Nuts!

  58. JamboRiffs says:

    Sorry but this speech is poor. The title is unrelated and misleading. The advice basic, obvious and examples weak. Stress / anxiety causes mental tunnel vision, we get energised but lose the awareness to think broadly, that's why it's easy to forget things because we get distracted by what's immediately on our minds. It helps to slow down, think broadly and make a list on paper (eg the night before). Then when short on time refer to the list and focus on the essentials. Got more time? Do the extras after completing the essentials

  59. SpongebobMeBoy says:

    … what?

  60. The Mandinka Family says:

    And this my friends is how white privilege works lol

  61. VOICEOFSHARK says:

    Find out How to learn anything at VOS

  62. Laffintig says:

    We don't know what we don't know and so it would be difficult to think ahead as to what may or may not happen.

  63. Mike Hough says:

    keys on hook by door not good could be easy pickings for thieves

  64. jeffrey christopher says:

    Not what I thought it would be

  65. Stan Pratt says:

    The best part of this speech was the statistics on statins.

  66. ALEXッ says:

    3:04 weird flex but ok

  67. Atelier Iris says:

    When he started talking about the prostate he certainly did not help me to stay calm

  68. Muhammad Ashiq says:

    Utter crap waste of time. Clickbait.

  69. tasss550 says:

    the video on how to sell a video with a fake title. People don't waste time, has nothing to do with the title.

  70. kay poly says:

    misleading. This has absolutely nothing to do with the title.

  71. Tauseef Liaqat says:

    poor squirrels

  72. Agam Mishra says:

    The cooldest temperature in montreal ever recorded is -36°C(-29°F)

  73. amz khan says:

    Yep i just got more stressed after watching this

  74. Tony Tonz says:

    i'd been watching TED and became a huge fan since the program launched few years ago.. i agree that over the years there has been issues and flaws with their programs but still very helpful to alot of people…love TED

  75. KP Be fast says:

    Stressed me out watching it. Talking about getting sick and medical problems 😱

  76. Swagoto Roy says:

    The primary thing to do under a stress situation is to be calm observe and introspect…..Do not show it to the world…….But critical analysis in head is required. Some prognostic and predictive rational thinking also helps a great deal……Assume the future must go wildly wrong! One can then see the picture and act accordingly; good talk from someone with a neuro background.

  77. Bubblun says:

    As Daniel Levitin stated; When you're stressed, you can't operate at your best.

    That's why the title seems misleading, because he believes the truth is you can't. He gave us something we can do, though; how to think ahead of time and be ready for stressful situations. There might be ways to immediately calm yourself and de-stress, but as far as Daniel's concern as a neuroscientist; you can't.

    The title is meant as an attention grabber, it's titled in a way to grab our attention with what they know we believe in so they can deliver the truth to us. Whether that truth is correct or not is debatable, but this is what they believe in; I think it's wrong to assume the worst about the title when it's intention wasn't malicious.

  78. Vampyre Juice says:

    "Look ahead and think of all the things that could go wrong". Hello anxiety disorder. Not the best advice I've ever heard.

  79. sanjay bhatikar says:

    Challenged my perceptions. Thank you very much.

  80. Rick the Swift says:

    I'm at 9:43 and am beginning to doubt this guy is actually capable of making a point. It's digression at its purist. Like snow on a grass covered mountain. Btw, popsicles are delicious too, although the label's fat content is misleading, just like the video's title 😉

  81. Bonnie Erickson says:

    Excellent

  82. hk says:

    This guy is one name dropping entitled sob

  83. crangel21 says:

    What this guy just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard.

    At no point in his rambling, incoherent story was he even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in that room is now dumber for having listened to it.

  84. Aisha Ahmed says:

    * OMG, I get so angry at myself every single time I forget about this THING come back to it again and again 😂 due to this crazy title to lure stupid me in!

  85. Ryan Corbell says:

    As a stoner in a house with cop like parents, I learned to think ahead alot

  86. Lachlan O'Grady says:

    A good man makes right his mistakes. A great man realizes the mistake, before he makes it

  87. alienpioneer says:

    How to stay calm when you know you'll be stressed — designate a place for your keys or just another way of saying "If i would know , i would tell you, but in the meantime let's talk about something else "

  88. 100,00,000 views says:

    It was more about doctors less about stress.

  89. AMYAS Seek Truth says:

    Besides the stress topic – the fact that he is willing to tell the truth about pharmaceutical companies (priceless)

  90. Spilling Tea with Tee says:

    https://youtu.be/WneYDHSL0fY

  91. YBSShaun says:

    Anyone here from Reflux?

  92. nikhil karnawat says:

    MEDICALLY INCORRECT AND GRAVELY MISLEADING

  93. PAUL LABERGE says:

    What Mr Levitin means by "pre-mortem" may be called commonly Risk Management: identify potential risks, their likeliness, the extent of their impact, how to mitigate or avoid them. By the way, Montreal is a cold place during winter, but not as much as Mr Levitin's words may imply. PL Montreal

  94. Ali Soltanabadi says:

    you didnot teach how to be calm in stressing situtions. you just spoke about drugs and ….!!!

  95. Rosanna Desole says:

    Very interesting and informative video. I thank Chiara Sodi for the Italian translation.🙏👍👏

  96. Liflow says:

    Awesome talk! Very basic and powerful questions to ask yourself and your doctor.

  97. Dennis says:

    This was one of the worst Ted talks I've ever listened to. No coherent point to this. Just an anecdote and a few random tips.

  98. ChefGiovanni says:

    Never put all your trust in the medical industry, or you will die early and broke.

  99. RsbrrySwrlGrl says:

    As a person who works in a financial institute, please don't take a photo of your debit or credit card. This is dangerous on so many levels. What if you lose your phone? What if your account gets hacked? People can still do things with just the number and expiration date. If you lose your card call your financial institute and put a temporary block on it or use their tools, such as an app, to do it yourself until you can find it.

  100. RickwithasilentP says:

    Took a long time to get to a pretty obvious point. Certainly nothing new or enlightening here.

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