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The 5 Tiers Of Friendship

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The 5 Tiers Of Friendship


Welcome to Lesson 1 Of The Bee Friend Course. This is a course that will teach you how to
befriend others. To become more likable. And to gain the ability to form deep and meaningful
relationships wherever you go. We’re going to start off the course by discussing
the 5 types of people in our lives. Also known as the tiers of friendship because,
just like a pyramid – the majority of the people will fall into the lower tiers while
only a select few make it to the top. Make sure you watch this video till the very
end because the rest of the course will be built upon the concepts we discuss here. You will have an extremely hard time understanding
what we talk about down the line if you do not watch the entire video. Ok? Let’s get started. The first tier is the stranger. Strangers make up the majority of people that
we encounter in our lives. You may have seen them passing by during your
commute to work, in front of you in the supermarket, or they might even be someone that you happen
to share some classes with. What makes someone a stranger is the fact
that you’ve never really interacted with them before. You might have exchanged glances, you might
know their name, but you’ve never had a conversation with them. Both of you may acknowledge each others existence,
but that’s about it. Strangers do not fulfill our need for human
interaction at all. The tier above this is the acquaintance. Most people have a couple dozen acquaintances. These are people that you’ve interacted with
a couple of times in the past. You’ve probably had a conversation or two
with them. Most of the time it’s nothing special, just
small talk. You say hi if you bump into each other, but
that’s it. You never hang out with these people, and
if you do it’s because a mutual friend invited them – not because of you. Acquaintances do very little in fulfilling
our need for human interaction. The tier above this is the friend. Most people have just a handful of friends. Friends are people that you’ve spent a fair
amount of time with. You’ve shared a couple of enjoyable interactions. You invite each other to hang out at events
and parties. These are people that you’ve had many conversations
with. Mostly surface level stuff but you’ve shared
a decent amount of good laughs together. These are people that you feel somewhat comfortable
around. Friends fulfill our need for human interaction
to some extent. The tier above this is the close friend. Most people only have a couple of close friends. Like 2-4. Close friendships are friendships that have
stood the test of time. These are people that you’ve interacted with
over the course of at least a year or more. Close friends are the first people that you
think of when you want to hang out. They are almost always invited to any event
or party that you host. These are people that you feel extremely comfortable
around. And because of this you’ve likely shared some
deep and personal secrets with them. Close friends fulfill our need for human interaction
by a lot. In fact if all we have are a ton of close
friends we’ll be pretty well off. Now – very few people in our lives will make
it into the last and final tier. That of the significant other. With the exception of our families, Most people
only have just 1 significant other. Significant others are the people that we
value the most in our lives. They the ones that we spend the most time
with. The ones that we have the deepest conversations
with. The ones that we trust the most. These are the first people we think of when
we host any sort of event. And for the most part these are people that
we share a romantic interest with. Somebody like a girlfriend or a spouse. Of course there are exceptions to this rule,
but they are very rare. And because of this – it’s very important
to note that we’re not going to spend too much time talking about how to get into this
tier. See – developing a romantic relationship and
getting a significant other is a bit different from developing your typical friendship and
it would probably require it’s own course. But this doesn’t mean you should not pay attention,
because what you’re going to learn in this course will absolutely play a huge role in
getting to this final tier. Now I know I said that there are only 5 tiers
of friendship but the truth is there are actually 2 more additional tiers. But before we get into that I do want to mention
something very quickly. See – I’ve been coaching people for quite
some time now and I’ve noticed something very concerning. The large majority of people who go through
courses like the Tamed Course or the BeeFriend Course do not take action and reap the benefits. In fact it’s estimated that 80% of the people
who purchase a course will either not finish the course or not take any action. Only 20% of people actually get something
out of it. Once I realized this I decided to create some
sort of service to help those of you that really want to make a change. I’ve been working on a coaching program to
go along with the Tamed Course for about a year and have just started working on an educational
program to go along with the Bee Friend course. If you are someone who is very serious about
making change and you’re willing to invest money in yourself – please sign up for my
mailing list in the description box below. Full disclosure, if you join this email list
you will receive emails about future programs and services that are NOT FOR FREE. These are services that will cost money (and
we’re talking about a decent amount of money) but will be worth every penny. They are designed to significantly increase
your chances of making lasting change. In fact – I’ve been testing out the first
program for close to a year and so far we’ve had amazing results. So again if you’re interested and you’re willing
to invest in yourself – the link is in the description box below. Ok, so what are the two additional tiers? The first one is a tier that I like to call
the Neutral tier. If you’ve never seen someone before – if
you’ve just met someone. They will initially fall into this tier for
a couple of seconds. The reason people only stay in this tier for
a couple of seconds is because that’s how long it takes for our brains to sort out whether
this person is a potential friend or a potential foe. If the person is someone who doesn’t seem
like they will pose a threat then we will automatically sort them up into the stranger
tier. However, if they are giving off the wrong
signals or they come off a certain way we will automatically sort them into the foe
tier. The foe tier is reserved for people that we
think could potentially hurt us. You’ve probably come across someone who looked
out of it. Maybe they were wearing rags or looked like
they were on drugs. Maybe they looked very angry or looked like
they might be hiding a weapon. The way our brain see’s it, someone like this
is a huge potential problem. Potential to physically or mentally hurt us. And because of this we will subconsciously
try our best to avoid them. If someone is forced to interact with what
they consider to be a foe they will enter a flight, fight, or freeze state which is
extremely uncomfortable. We’re not going to dive too much into that
but what’s important to note is that this is a tier that you want to stay out of as
best as possible. And we’re going to cover exactly how in a
future video. Now that we’ve learned about the different
tiers of friendship, a very important question remains, How exactly do we move up the pyramid. Right? because in order to build strong meaningful
relationships with people we need to develop the ability to climb this pyramid as effectively
as possible. Which is why in our next lesson we’re going
to learn about the 4 key factors that determine how fast we can climb up these tiers – also
known as the Formula Of Friendship. Remember to subscribe and hit the bell icon. Because the best way to help the channel out
is by completing the course, reaping the benefits, and helping us make this world into a better
place. Again you can sign up for the email list to
hear more about future programs and services I will be offering using the link in the description
box below. Besides that guys – stay tuned.

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100 thoughts on “The 5 Tiers Of Friendship”

  1. Guess Who Am I says:

    This is amazing

  2. kpolydore says:

    I'm loving this course. Priceless information in it!

  3. D says:

    Really looking forward to this series! Love the concept

  4. Ayala Baleeiro says:

    Realized i don’t have none of those tiers people iml Dx.

  5. Super_P-A says:

    Thanks you
    You are saying things I already know but It still helps 😀

  6. goodtimecharlie says:

    If you were close friends with someone, and shared deep conversations, but then they became more distant and now you are further apart, would they just go back to being friends? Or is this a different type of friend?

  7. Star Wars News says:

    As someone with aspergers, I have a feeling this will be immensely useful

  8. Martin Tran says:

    Nice, i can't wait.

  9. Ammar Nadir says:

    recommend me this type of book..

  10. Srinivasan Suresh says:

    I'm neutrally open to anyone but few only can be as my friends.
    It's all my rights and wish to have someone who am think special.
    But your work is worthy!🙏

  11. Rising Tide says:

    What if you have less than 5 people in your life? Joking aside, why use the number 5 in your title? Because people have complicated personalities and complicated roles in other people’s lives, your title is misleading…

  12. Akshay Dighe says:

    Having a lot of friends but they can't reach to my heart, mainly some of them I noticed they always try to use me

  13. Ranganath Vaikuntham says:

    Bro is it just me or you are speaking much faster.

  14. Always Improving says:

    Such a fantastic video! How regularly are these videos coming out?

  15. Patrick E. Lita says:

    How do you know I need this so much…

  16. RAPHAL says:

    I have close friends and with them i think we fit in the singnificant other (they are guys so no its not romantic but there is a girl i am realy close that fit in the significant other but i dont think its romantic, and after all people that i am good with them and talking i call them friend or good friends) so yhea i think i am good what do you think about it ?

  17. Victor Martir says:

    Thank you so much Improvement Pill for starting this series, because I really need help with my interpersonal skills. Keep up the good work man. Can’t wait for the next video!

  18. Karina says:

    I only have strangers and acquaintances in my life lol

  19. Andreh Ammari says:

    You brought out the best version of me, i always knew i could become whati feel inside and that's because of your kindness and help, i thank you very much sir.

  20. Practical Inspiration says:

    Good video, it was a great way to conceptualise it by using a pyramid!

  21. Ayoub Mz says:

    we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.
    the truth!!

  22. TheYuki123 says:

    I Don't even have 5 people in my life…

  23. Communist Mother Fucker says:

    Wow, I’m actually here early

  24. Michael Arthur says:

    this is the system telling people how to live, money is fake.

  25. Rohit Patel says:

    I have friends but not a close one 😢 .
    Maybe because i am too good.

  26. Kayachi says:

    I live your channel

  27. Abdellatif Waqqad says:

    Where do co-workers fit in there? Considering you spend a lot of your time with them everyday.

  28. D J says:

    Most people in my life are simply my acquaintances? Why? Simply because they are mostly self-centered and not worth befriending with… or I just don't care about it.

  29. Jasmin Sanchez says:

    My close friend is my dog

  30. Live music Escola de musica says:

    Precisa ter legendas em português

  31. JP Criddle says:

    The top 2 tiers are non existent for me 😔

  32. axellir says:

    now this was a video that didn't teach me anything…

  33. becca Crespin says:

    I have too much people in significant other and close friends.. maybe it's a problem. :/

  34. Teaj Allen says:

    Co workers is other one

  35. Ivan Gonzalez Hansen says:

    Hey Improvement, how are you? Im gonna ask you something related to the tamed course… Sleep can do the job as a reward? I dont think so, but I wanna be sure.

  36. Apostrophe T says:

    This is a great topic. Thank you!

  37. FlowUrbanFlow says:

    Foes, tiers, and a neutral. It's a fighting game

  38. jack sparrow says:

    Keep your friends close and enemies closer

  39. Fatiha Taheya says:

    Really looking forward to this course ❤️

  40. Blow Ranger says:

    i dont even have 5 ppl in my life.

  41. Ar Vivo says:

    I keep coming here, looking for lesson number 2. I really need this. I am so happy you started this course, Improvement Pill.

  42. Sekai Douglas says:

    the problem with me is that I have friends but I feel like we have nothing in common and I have to change myself

  43. Reverens says:

    I'm loving the course man❤❤❤
    Thanks for the encouragement

  44. FraSMoe says:

    If you have known someone for at least a year,had deep convos with them, was always invited to events but it only lasted for a year.Is the person still considered as a close friend?

  45. Sabii Sweet says:

    Is it bad or abnormal that I don’t want friends?? 🤨 what’s the point exactly?? (Serious inquiry)

  46. Korvin Carry says:

    The significant other category also stands for many military, police, and firefighters. The fellow people they train with and fight with, the people they have sweat and bled with. A good deal more are just close friends, but its not uncommon for them to meet the significant other requirements. Now typically its a bunch of one to one groups in a platoon, but for special forces it could extend even further. Just a little something i wanted to add to the conversation! 😁

  47. Jikrin says:

    I only have the first three levels. Strangers, acquaintances, and "friends".

  48. Quin B says:

    You could also play sims and learn this.

  49. Growth Magnified says:

    It's so true that people will watch things but not take action. I have done this myself for a long time. Great content man! I have one question, What is one piece of advice that you would give yourself at the beginning of starting this channel?

  50. Justin Ohara says:

    Arigato

  51. WesNohathas says:

    My problem is that most of my family would fall in the acquaintance tier.

  52. Lava Yuki says:

    I have a lot of Acquaintances, but only very few close friends

  53. that person says:

    All of my friends are close friends

  54. JH says:

    I have 7, stan list > close friends > friends > acq etc hehe

  55. Diana Yasinska says:

    I am so bad at making new friends 😒😧

  56. Hawky McHawkface says:

    I don't really have any friends. I have one acquaintance. I'm determined to work on fixing that though. Thanks for creating this course 🙂

  57. Alex Bainbridge says:

    I only have 3 friends and 0 close friends 😓

  58. Farah ٌ says:

    That's what i wannntttt 💕💕

  59. MNL48 Emperor says:

    I'M OKAY WITH ONLY JUST ONE.

  60. Frost Wings says:

    You said a person can have a 2 to 4 close friends well. I got like 50 of those…

  61. AUk says:

    My goal is 4 significant others (1 romantic +3 platonic) + many many others with lower standard. It surely is ambitious goal. 😛

    Ive been observing how my emotional growth in last 2 years directly affected closeness in relationships. Intentional emotional growth helped me to be more assertive and open. It boosted feelings of belonging and connection through the roof.
    Comunication became direct, less implicit and no more signs of manipulative behaviour. Frankness took its place. Authenticity is really shinning nowdays.

    I have 2 significant others at the moment. Male and female and neither is romantic partner.

    Learning and meditating are the key. 😛

  62. Aziz Qaissi says:

    The Tamed Course was a huge boost. Really. Thanks a lot. Just joined this course today.

  63. James Clary says:

    I feel like you are missing a level between acquaintance and friend (or if not there, then between friend and close friend). I have a lot of people that I invite over to my house, and would stop and have pleasant conversations with, but very few of them are in that transition where they could become more than that.

    I have several friends who are at the significant other close friend status, but most of them live somewhere else at this point.

  64. I am not a tree says:

    THANK YOU SO MUCH for making this video! As I'm not a native English speaker it was always quite difficult for me to understand how on earth in English everyone is your friend! We have at least 10 words to distinguish types of friendly relationships in Polish. Now, thanks to your video, I'm starting to get it 🙂 I'm also planning on doing an expat take on your video, as it was so helpful for me and I think it might help other non-native speakers to understand how to manage their sociall ives abroad 🙂

  65. oxi says:

    what do you call a friend that you just dumped and after a long time you see them again ?
    awkward friend ?

  66. crakavelithedon says:

    I have more than enough acquaintances and friends, but very few lose friends.

    I think most people are uninteresting to me, so it's hard to make the effort to get close to them.

  67. Pïnk Dãhlîa says:

    My best friend fits under close friend <3 maybe even a friendship in significant other category!!

  68. TakeTimeFR says:

    I don't really like the idea of putting "tiers" of friendship. Friendship is friendship, and type of friends shouldn't be put in boxes, because then you don't see them as the person they are, but the category they enter in.

  69. Welshie Ranger says:

    alright so here's my deal the whole trust pyramid
    flip it over
    thats how i trust people i can trust a complete stranger more than a friend and much more than family
    yay for insecurity, keeping me safe since birth

  70. Little Yeoja says:

    Welp, I need this

  71. Phiphi Cupcake says:

    But not all "significant others" have to be romantic

  72. Šømbrāš Wolf says:

    My friend and I where in the “significant other” (without the romance) people even used to think we where dating but when I moved schools for a year that’s when everything was ruined…..when we saw each other in middle school he didn’t care to much about seeing me…he never stands next to me and always wants to play fortnite with my other friends and he always wants to hang out with them and now he just thinks of me as a friend……

  73. Bruna Yamaguchi says:

    Fire Emblem Support Ranks in a nutshell…

  74. Afia Zaman says:

    I dont have any close friends..

  75. aLERNO says:

    So doing drugs disqualifies a beautiful person from becoming a friend? I think WHAT DISQUALIFIES A PERSON IS TO FRONT AS SOMETHING ONLY TO MAKE PROFIT OUT OF YOU. Like this so called "improvement pill" that wants to make financial profit out of you, yet they have NO PROFESSIONAL KNOWLEDGE OF ANYTHING resembling a proven, reliable, wise, knowledge about human and existential matters.

    Beware of these charlatans.

  76. Ben Chermenschi says:

    i wonder, can a friendship be formed with a person who floats between friend and foe?

  77. Peter Kropotkin AKA Mr.Awake says:

    The highest I've gotten is aquaintice

    Please make a how to make freinds video

  78. Eric Rohr says:

    Hi, can you make a video on how you make your videos

  79. Jesvin Mathew says:

    5 Types of People (Tiers of Friendship)

    Strangers
    No Conversation. Does not fulfill need for interaction.

    Acquaintance
    Few conversations/interaction. Does not fulfill need for interaction

    Friends
    Many conversations (mostly surface level). You feel comfortable around then. They fulfill our need for interaction to some extent

    Close Friend
    Always invited. Deep conversations. Fulfills our need for interaction

    Significant Other
    Always invited. Deepest conversations. Most trusted. Spends most time with.

    Also
    Neutral & Foe

  80. Landon Fanning says:

    “What about tier 15?”
    “YOU STAY AWAY FROM THAT! DO NOT DO TIER 15!”

  81. SpaceMonkeyDoom says:

    Improvement Pill

    how do i make friends i've autism w-w

  82. macmilitant123 says:

    So true

  83. Ramen Cup says:

    Is it weird I consider more than 6 people I know "close friends"?

  84. Msmi Beauty says:

    This makes so much sense to why I feel so depressed in life when all I want are friends. Everyone I come across stop at the aquaintances in my life. I've tried asking the hang out with them but for some reason it doesn't go far. Maybe it could be cause they're tired fro work. I don't know.

  85. Levi Halperin says:

    Haven't got many people above the stranger tier, not even to fpeak about close friends

  86. Austincrsx says:

    I have 0 close friends or s/o

  87. kisu kun says:

    I have friends and acquaintances but don't have a close friend and a significant other. That's sad honestly

  88. Jacob Hayton says:

    boarding school messes up this whole pyrimad

  89. Nevermind says:

    Meh, my highest tier is something between acquaintance and friend

  90. Milk ń Honey says:

    when you have like 4 significant others

  91. Ramzan Virani says:

    I love this video

  92. Fish bone says:

    Whats the point we ended up getting hurt…

  93. Yagyaansh Khaneja says:

    what book is this course based on??

  94. Nina L says:

    I already know all these tiers from Sims 4.

  95. Yung Bathwater says:

    Tfw no close friends

  96. Assassin King says:

    Well it finally happened I search a video about making friend Oof

  97. Green Plastic says:

    I love how improvement pill answers peoples comments

  98. diztiinct says:

    Bro, you have direct access to my soul. What you say influences me a great deal

  99. Legendary Derp duck says:

    When people ask me if I have a best friend

    “I don’t have a FAVOURITE friend”

  100. Maria Indemne says:

    ARE THERE ONLY 7 EPISODES? Am I missing out on other lessons?

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